I had to drop off my dog at the Dove's house for the weekend. Seeing her always makes me feel incredibly guilty. I wish I could make myself love her the way she loves me, because she deserves so much to be happy. If I could make my own happiness, I would have my passions directed towards the Dove, not the Swan.
Of course, I could say, well, I'm going to be selfless and put aside my own concerns for the happiness of another. But no. See, I've already been through a marriage. I know what marriage is like. *IF* I ever get married again, I intend to spend the rest of my productive life on this planet putting my family — my wife and hopefully my kids — first, in ever conceivable way. Now, if I am going to take that step — and I would very much like to take that step, because I think it is the only true path to human happiness — I am *DAMN* sure going to be selfish about the person I choose to do it with.
I intend for my choice of marriage partner to be the last completely and utterly selfish decision I make in my life. After that, I will subsume myself completely to caring for and protecting my family. So if it's my last shot, I will NOT be settling for anything less than the best I could reasonably hope for.
But you know what? I am inclined to blame the Swan for this whole sorry state of affairs. You see, after my divorce, I was a completely broken man. Even as the other things in my life began to improve, I still felt utterly defeated.
Had the Dove come into my life then, she would have been everything I could have hoped for and more. I would spend the rest of my life loving her and treating her like a queen.
But instead, you know who DID come into my life then? The Swan. Again, of course — she'd already torn me up years before, and I'd spent many, many long years trying to heal that wound. And now, instead of the Dove, the Swan was the one who came tearing back into my life — convincing me that I was somebody she genuinely cared for and indeed, loved.
Doing that — giving me that taste, once again, then stealing it away — was the most horrible thing she has ever done. Because it hurt me. Here's how:
First of all, there was the obvious emotional toll of losing her AGAIN. That was very severe, of course. But secondly, somewhere in that mysterious fog that conceals the innerworkings of my mind, she fucking flipped a switch or changed a gear or — something...
The result was that she completely reset my irrational expectations. I had worked hard and long to resolve myself to never having another girl like her — and then she came along and fucked it all up. And now my restless damn soul is once again, desperately hungry for another taste of her — or something very close, at least. Meaning I am stuck once again apparently wanting something I can never, ever have...
Fuck, Swan. I mean, Jesus. I hope the man that ends up with you really fucking appreciates you. I mean he ought to litter the ground in front of your feet with rose petals everywhere you go. Because otherwise, it makes a total mockery of all the suffering I've endured on your behalf.
Are you worth it? I am utterly convinced you are — at least my bastard heart is convinced. Please know that — and please, if you don't take me, don't trade your gifts away for anything less than what I would have given you. I would walk a thousand miles for you; please don't give your heart to any man who wouldn't walk at least two thousand.
Shit. I can't take this. I can't take it, just can't take it. Something will eventually have to give. I am very, very strong, and I've made a commitment here to hold out for a very long time. But eventually, the thing that is going to give will be me and my worthless excuse for a life...